Never ask a flight attendant this question – Best Life

Flight attendants have seen it all: medical emergencies, day-long delays, and turbulence that would make most of us lose our lunch. Despite all that, dealing with unruly passengers is one of the most difficult parts of their job. From airmen who refuse to wear a mask to those who take up missed hookups on staff, there are so many types of unsavory dudes. One of the most common? Passengers asking rude and inappropriate questions. Here flight attendants and etiquette experts tell us the one question you should never ask on a plane (and a few more).

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Asking this question — and others that require your flight attendant’s attention for a long time — undermines their primary responsibility: aircraft safety. “People need to understand that flight attendant is more than just serving customers,” says Julia Esteve Boyd, international etiquette consultant and former flight attendant. “Customer service is a very important aspect of the job, but security and safety are a priority.”

If you need some help, consider asking a fellow passenger or politely asking your flight attendant if they have time for a small favor. However, keep in mind that helping you with personal issues is not the job of your flight attendant. “Of course, if time permits, they can offer to help,” says Esteve Boyd. “But it should not be assumed that it is okay.”

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If your plane is at half capacity, it may be tempting to ask your flight attendant to move to a seat with more space or one that is further away from the bathroom. However, you may want to skip it — at least until the plane takes to the skies.

“This is especially inconvenient during boarding when time is limited to meet these demands,” says Esteve Boyd. “Maybe after takeoff if seats are available, the question can be asked.” In that regard, Boyd recommends not asking for upgrades either.

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Sure, a two-hour delay on the asphalt or a tropical storm in your path is frustrating, but you have to keep those feelings to yourself. “The flight attendants are not responsible for the weather, mechanical delays, additional costs or prices,” says Jodi RR Smith from Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. “If you’re upset about something Mother Nature or the airline did, don’t yell at the flight attendants.” Try distracting yourself with a movie, book, or deep breath. It will make time pass and (hopefully) give you a sense of calm.

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We really hope you already know that this is a question to avoid. “The most important thing flight attendants hear—usually from guests who have had some pre-flight alcohol—is, ‘So, are you a member of the Mile High Club?’ and variations,” says August Abbott, certified etiquette expert at JustAnswer.

Esteve Boyd also notes that the question is both common and unacceptable, just like asking your flight attendant on a date. “[Doing so] is inappropriate, potentially considered sexual harassment, and unwanted attention 99 percent of the time,” she says.

Instead, sit back, fasten your seat belt and watch your manners. You can rest assured that you will get from point A to point B while maintaining your attentive flyer status.

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